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Let’s be clear: chasing love is not romantic—it’s a trauma response.
If you keep overgiving, overthinking, and overextending for people who barely give you clarity… you’re not in love. You’re in a cycle. And it’s time to break it.
As the Bible says: “The blessing of the Lord, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.” (Proverbs 10:22, KJV)
If love feels like confusion, emotional starvation, or performance—it’s not a blessing. It’s a signal.
1. Chasing Love Means You’re Abandoning Yourself
If you’re always the one initiating, over-apologizing, or explaining your worth—you’ve abandoned yourself for approval.
Let’s get honest:
- Do you fear being alone more than being mistreated?
- Do you tolerate hot-and-cold energy just to keep someone in your life?
- Do you confuse inconsistency with excitement?
That’s not romance. That’s re-traumatization.
🎯 Healing begins where self-abandonment ends.
2. What You Chase is What You Believe You’re Lacking
Why are you chasing love? Because deep down, your subconscious says:
“I’m not lovable unless I earn it.”
But you can’t beg for love and believe in your worth at the same time.
You’re either walking in identity… or walking in insecurity.
💡 You don’t attract love through force—you attract it through frequency.
Scripture says: “Ye are complete in him…” (Colossians 2:10, KJV)
You are already whole. Stop acting like you need a relationship to be validated.
3. Real Love Doesn’t Need Convincing
If they’re confused about you, they’re not your confirmation—they’re your test.
- Real love communicates.
- Real love commits.
- Real love confirms.
Stop trying to convince people to choose you. That’s not divine partnership—that’s emotional poverty.
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4. Begin the Inner Healing Work
When you stop chasing and start healing, everything changes:
✅ You stop tolerating inconsistent people.
✅ You stop performing for attention.
✅ You start discerning who deserves your energy.
✅ You begin attracting stable, purpose-aligned love.
That’s because your vibration no longer says, “Please love me.”
It says, “I am already loved by God. I require no convincing.”
💥 This is what I call Christ Consciousness.
As Jesus said: “I and my Father are one.” (John 10:30, KJV)
You and love are not separate. They exist within you.
5. Stop Asking Why They Left—Ask Why You Stayed
You’ll heal faster when you stop focusing on who left and start asking:
- What part of me kept allowing confusion?
- What fear made me stay where I wasn’t chosen?
- What would change if I actually believed I deserved peace?
The truth is: They were never rejecting you. They were revealing you.
And now, you get to revise that story.
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Final Word: You Don’t Need to Chase What You Carry
You’re not looking for love.
You’re looking for recognition of the love already planted in you by God.
🕊 Stop waiting for someone to complete you. Start healing the part that forgot you’re already complete in Christ.
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Stop chasing. Start healing.
Because when you align with Christ, love stops being something to chase—and starts being something you reflect.
