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1. If It’s Draining You, It’s Not Developing You
Some of you are in relationships that feel like warfare—yet you call it “chemistry.”
You’re stuck in emotional roller coasters thinking it’s passion, but it’s trauma familiarity.
Let’s be honest.
You’re addicted to the highs and lows.
You confuse adrenaline with intimacy.
You think fighting and making up equals bonding.
But in reality? You’re trauma-bonded. Not spiritually connected.
Love does not require constant survival mode. It requires spiritual maturity.
2. You Were Conditioned to Accept Chaos as Care
If you grew up in dysfunction, you may associate love with pain, inconsistency, or control.
So when someone offers peace, you call it “boring.”
But when someone offers drama, you feel “alive.”
That’s not love—it’s a programmed nervous system.
And until you heal, you’ll keep calling chaos your type.
📖 “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace…” – 1 Corinthians 14:33 (KJV)
3. Stop Chasing Love That Makes You Bleed
You can’t keep sacrificing your peace at the altar of their potential.
Love is not supposed to constantly make you cry yourself to sleep.
It’s not supposed to make you question your worth every week.
If you’re constantly:
Overexplaining
Overcompensating
Overthinking
…then you’re not in love—you’re in fear.
Love does not force you to lose yourself.
It empowers you to find more of yourself in a safe space.
4. Kingdom Love Doesn’t Hurt. It Heals.
The kind of love God authors is not manipulative, hot-and-cold, or rooted in fear.
It’s protective.
It’s peaceful.
It’s purpose-driven.
📖 “Perfect love casteth out fear…” – 1 John 4:18 (KJV)
If you’re feeling more anxious than anchored, it’s not perfect love.
It might be a soul tie.
It might be unhealed wounds.
But it’s not the divine partnership you keep praying for.
Final Word: Love Isn’t a Battlefield. It’s a Sanctuary.
If it’s always hurting you, God didn’t send it.
Period.
If you have to keep lowering your value to be seen—walk away.
If you have to lose yourself to keep them, you’re not in love… you’re in bondage.
📖 “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28 (KJV)
Love isn’t meant to crush you. It’s meant to carry you.
Stop trying to make trauma feel like home.
You weren’t born for war—you were born for peace.
Ready to Stop Confusing Pain for Love?
Let’s rebuild your love life from the ground up—based on self-worth, divine alignment, and emotional clarity. It starts with YOU.
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🛑 Stop calling it love if it keeps breaking you.
✅ Real love feels like peace—not pain.
— Keith Muoki
Strategic Relationship Mentor | Biblical Metaphysicist | Christ-Conscious Coach
www.keithmuoki.com
