Keffa Musee

You think it’s love because it hurts when they leave.
You think it’s love because the connection feels intense.
You think it’s love because you’ve never felt this way before…

But what if I told you…
That’s not love. That’s a trauma bond.

“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear…” — 1 John 4:18 (KJV)

If your love feels like walking on eggshells…
If you feel addicted, confused, anxious, or constantly needing to prove your worth…
If it leaves you drained but too afraid to let go…
That’s not covenant.
That’s codependency masked as passion.
That’s wounds attaching to wounds.

Let’s dismantle the lie.

You didn’t lose them.
You lost the part of you that needed to beg, chase, prove, or tolerate half-love in the name of “hope.”
And that, my friend, is divine deliverance.

“And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” — John 8:32 (KJV)

The version of you that accepted mixed signals, late-night apologies, breadcrumb affection, and emotional confusion…
had to die so the version of you walking in clarity, boundaries, and Kingdom confidence could resurrect.

I know you miss them.
I know you still think about the memories, the dreams, and the “what-ifs.”
You’re hoping maybe they’ll text back. Maybe they’ll realize your worth. Maybe they’ll return.

But beloved, let me ask you something with love and truth:
Are you praying for their return… or your own rescue?

“God is not the author of confusion…” — 1 Corinthians 14:33 (KJV)

If what left you brought more confusion than clarity, it may not be what God intended to remain in your future.
Sometimes we keep asking God to bring back what He delivered us from — because we’re afraid to face what’s next.

Let me set you free right now:

You are not asking for too much.
You are asking someone who’s not ready to become what you prayed for.

In a culture that glorifies hookups, emotional games, and convenience over covenant, your desire for consistency, communication, vision, and alignment may feel out of place. But that’s because you’re not called to blend in — you’re called to set a standard.

“Be ye holy; for I am holy.” — 1 Peter 1:16 (KJV)

Holiness in love is not weakness — it’s wisdom.
Your standard isn’t pride — it’s protection.

Sometimes, what feels like a heartbreak is actually a Holy Spirit rescue mission.

Yes, it hurts.
Yes, you prayed for them.
Yes, it seemed right…
But sometimes God loves you too much to leave you where your purpose will suffocate.

“Come out from among them, and be ye separate…” — 2 Corinthians 6:17 (KJV)

When God removes someone, delays a relationship, or creates sudden distance, it’s not always the devil.
Sometimes it’s divine intervention disguised as disappointment.

Let’s expose something real:
If your “type” keeps leading you into pain, confusion, inconsistency, emotional rollercoasters, and spiritual chaos…
That’s not a type. That’s a trauma pattern.

You’re not choosing them because they’re good for you.
You’re choosing them because they feel familiar to your wounds.

“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he…” — Proverbs 23:7 (KJV)

Unhealed trauma programs your soul to crave people who mirror your unresolved emotions.
That’s why you keep calling dysfunction chemistry.
That’s why peace feels boring and pain feels passionate.
It’s not love—it’s unhealed energy recycling itself.

Let’s kill a lie today.

👉 You are NOT too much.
👉 You are NOT hard to love.
👉 You are NOT the problem.

You just handed your depth to someone shallow.
You gave your covenant capacity to someone with a casual mindset.
You planted your heart in soil that couldn’t hold you.

And what happened? They misunderstood you.
They couldn’t receive you.
They fumbled you.
And now you’re questioning your value based on someone else’s emotional immaturity.

But here’s the truth:

“I am fearfully and wonderfully made…” — Psalm 139:14 (KJV)

God didn’t wire you wrong. You were just seen through the wrong eyes.

One of the biggest traps in relationships is waiting to be chosen, trying to be enough, or begging for crumbs of attention—instead of knowing who you are in Christ and showing up as love itself.

Listen closely:
You are not here to chase love. You are here to embody it.

“God is love…” – 1 John 4:8 (KJV)
And if you were made in His image, then you are the expression of love, not just the receiver of it.

Most people don’t fail in relationships because they didn’t love.
They fail because they didn’t heal, grow, or align.
Love is powerful—but love alone doesn’t sustain a relationship.

Love without maturity leads to emotional chaos.
Love without standards leads to manipulation.
Love without God leads to confusion, not covenant.

Let me be real with you:
If you don’t fix the root, you’ll keep repeating the fruit.
You don’t attract what you want—you attract what you ARE.

Most people want a powerful, loving, drama-free relationship—but few are willing to become the version of themselves that can sustain one.

Let me say this as clearly as possible:

Your relationships reflect your consciousness.

If you carry broken identity, you’ll attract toxic bonds.
If you walk in fear of abandonment, you’ll create dynamics that validate it.
If you are unclear on your worth, you’ll settle for what feels familiar—not what’s aligned.

This is why relationships are not just emotional playgrounds—they are spiritual assignments.